5 things I did to achieve harmony and mom-work life balance!
Hey Mama, are you struggling to balance your work and being a mom? Well, I’m here to help you because I have 5 tips to achieve a harmony between your mom duties and your work.
It’s really hard to handle everything especially if you’re raising kids while doing your best to provide the best life for them through your job. The key to a mom and work-life balance is how you take care of yourself.
I know that it could be overwhelming and stressful but today I’m sharing with you some of the things I did this month that has helped me in managing my duties. It’s important to remember that you need the strength to do all these things which is why you should also take care of yourself.
If you’re a mom who’s struggling right now, I hear you and I feel you! Tune in this episode and get a few tips on how you could handle everything without being overwhelmed.
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Transcript
Hey there beautiful Mama, how are you, sister? Welcome back to the faithful mama Podcast. Today, sweet friend, I am talking to you about things that I did this past month, that have really helped me stay present as a mom and focus and grow my business. And I am excited for this episode because I’m actually turning this episode into a series. So every month, at the end of the month, I will show up on this podcast and share with you things that I did that month that have really helped me balance motherhood and business because whenever I do this episode that I talk about the to you ladies love, it isn’t my goal on this podcast is obviously to help you.
And it’s really hard for you to grow a business, if part of you feels all this guilt over not spending time with your kids and perhaps feeling like you’re not doing enough or just hitting the overwhelm of, I really have to grow this business, or want to grow this business but I also have to raise my babies, and I can’t find the harmony in both. So yeah, I get him on my I see you I am you and I’m sharing these things with you. And I hope that they really help you find the harmony that you’re searching for so that you can do both. And let me just tell you that you can do both, it is possible. And I’m going to help you because I am helping myself in through this process. And actually journaling and seeing the progress that I have made, I’m able to see, okay, what’s working? And what can we keep doing and what can we shift and change.
And the beauty about this is that if you get nothing from what I’m telling you today, if all the things that I tell you are not things that apply to you, my hope is that it’ll help you shift how you see things. And it’ll just plant a seed of how you can do things differently and give you ideas and let your creativity flow when it comes to juggling growing your business and raising babies. So I’m going to share I have a list with 12345 things that I did. So I’m going to share with you what those were. So first things first one is that I became very intentional about my morning routine. And for me that looks like going to bed early because your morning actually starts the night before. So I go to bed early so that I can wake up early and wake up before the kids for me that’s huge, because my kids wake up at 100 miles per hour. And I don’t when I wake up, I literally don’t know my name. I’m like, what is this? What universe is this? What’s happening here so it takes me a minute for my body and my mind and my spirit to come connected again because all three of them are like, in different places in the universe, if you know what I mean.
So I definitely need to wake up before the kids so that, you know I can come to myself and spend me time just in pure bliss in silence is amazing so I’ve become really intentional about that but the days that I sleep in, I sleep in and I have no shame about it, which wasn’t always easy for me to past. If I slept in before, you know, pre all of this, I would feel so much shame and be kicking myself in the bud. Oh my gosh, I’m so lazy. Why don’t I wake up and I can catch up and I would sit in the place of negativity.
Now I listen to my body and if I use the pen is because I needed it but most days I am waking up at 5:15 5:30 and I’m able to just have me time and that has been amazing for me. Just know that if you’re not there yet, you’re trying to wake up early, just start like in 15 minute increments and you will get there. Now, I want to go into the next tip and bring it back to this tip. And the next step for me is that I am working during my best my best hours. My best hours are in the morning between 8am and a little bit too early afternoon 1pm that is when I am the brightest, just the most awake, the most energised and the most alive and the most creative. So I have become really intentional about making sure that I am working during those hours. And that I’m not checking my email unless it’s absolutely necessary that I’m not on social that I’m not anywhere but with the work that I have to do right in front of me.
Now, Mama with all of that being said, if you are a night owl don’t try to wake up at 5:15 in the morning. You know listen to your body you know yourself better than anybody else. I think all the guru’s like to say that you have to wake up early for going to conquer today and do all these things. However, people are different. I am not wired for tonight. I can definitely pull an all nighter if I have to but it’s not ideal for me, you know? So find your groove and what works for you and honour that and I have to say, I think there were times in my life seasons in my life where I was a night owl, that’s not it anymore. You know, I am like turning 40 in 4 years but regardless, the point is like the season of life that I am now, I wake up early, and that’s just how my body works. So find what works for you and go with that and honour that.
The next thing that really worked for us is decluttering just really getting rid of all the toys that my kids don’t like to play with. Like, for example, recently, I bought my daughter a doll house, and I thought she was gonna love it, she doesn’t even look at it, she doesn’t care for it. So you know, just getting rid of things that your kids are not playing with, that they’re not loving, and things that are broken. You know, clutter is really confusing for kids. It’s annoying for us. I don’t know about you, but I cannot work in a cluttered space, it causes me to have anxiety and I can’t focus and it’s just a mess, like visual mess. It’s not good for me. So I can only imagine that it’s the same for kids. It’s overwhelming. It’s overstimulating so decluttering toys is super helpful, not only for for them, but also for you because it’s less free to pick up after, you know, it just is what it is sister friends. So decluttering toys, and also clothes, I went through my daughter’s clothes and there were things there that from when she was three, and I’m like, why am I holding on to this, like, what is the meaning of all of this. So, you know, decluttering clothes, it just felt so good. And like life was light, and good and easy.
You know, the next thing I imagined may be a little bit triggering for some people to hear but I am going to say it anyway and I hope that the takeaway for you is that you just need to find what works for you and that is mama practising self care. Now this has been very hard for me for the past almost seven years of my journey as a mama, just taking the time for myself to do things for me, even if I wanted to. I felt like I couldn’t, that there was no time. And I came up with a bajillion excuses but ever since been really intentional about setting time for me and doing things that help me become a better human. I mean, I know it’s cliche, because I know you’ve heard it everywhere but it really helped me just to step up my game and motherhood, side of life, as well as the business side of life. So here are two things that I did that were super helpful. So taking baths so I know this is kind of weird to say, but I’m from Brazil, you guys and we don’t grow up with bathtubs like nobody has a bathtub in your home unless you’re really super duper rich. So for the majority of people in Brazil, we just don’t have a bathtub. So this whole idea of sitting in a bath in water and just like sitting there and soaking, it was very foreign for me for a very long time.
And I’ve been living in the US for 22 years, pretty much and it was just always super weird but I have been doing taking baths for about a month and I am loving them. So some days are just your bath bomb some other days or just do like the Epsom salt. And its be super helpful. And I do them about once a week sometimes like once every two weeks. So it’s not something that I do super regularly but it is something that I really enjoy doing that I really do try to go at least for not ready. So like my thing is about once a week is the sweet spot for me. And I’ve been really enjoying that. The next thing is practising gratitude. I have been loving it, it has I’m finally at a place where I can practice gratitude and enjoy it because for the longest time because the way that my brain is wired, gratitude didn’t come easy for me. So my childhood was very traumatic.
I have a lot of complex PTSD because of my childhood and for, you know, folks like me with a traumatic traumatised brain practising gratitude, it’s really difficult. And I have been working on this for a very long time. And I’m finally at a place where I can just sit and stay still in, just have gratitude for things and for the moment and seeing the brighter side of things. And I am really loving that because it just brings you so much joy, like simple, the simplest things really bring you so much joy. So I’m really enjoying that. And I do have a journal as well. And I tried to journal every single day, but some days I don’t and I don’t shame myself for that. And I think that this kindness compassion that I’m having with myself has been really super helpful. The next thing that I am absolutely loving that I have been doing for about a month if not a little bit over is tapping so if you’re not familiar with EFT, just look it up. And there are ton of videos that you can find on YouTube. Just try it out, oh my gosh mama, this is life changing in a wish that I knew this years ago because I feel like he would have shortcutted a lot of other things that are wrong during my life. Just the trauma and healing from the trauma and not holding emotions in my body and just being so intense about things, I feel like EFT would have helped me so much, but I just found out about it. And it has really been a life changer for me.
And this is one of the things that if you’re up to it, I highly recommend that you try, I have an app that I use, and it’s called Taping Solution and it’s 99 bucks and I it’s a lifetime membership that you buy, whatever but I know it’s pricey for an app, but it has been so helpful but of course, you can just find anything free online disease. So the point is, if you’re interested, just find something that works for you and go for it but I’m telling you right now, the tapping is amazing and pretty much the the nutshell version is that they’re disappointing your body that you can, you know, just kind of like lightly tap on. And it really helps you release anything that you’re feeling and helps you work through different emotions. If you’re doubting yourself, if you’re overthinking, there’s so many different things that tapping does, and I am seeing really good results with tapping. Meditation is another thing that I have been doing religiously for consecutively for I don’t know over 30 days, and it has been really helping me as well. And acupuncture. I, I started actually, mid December, and I am seeing such huge improvement with my health, I really found a practitioner that knows what she’s talking about, who incorporates not just the acupuncture itself, but also foods to help you heal you heal your body and it has been amazing so looking check your puncture, too if you’re, you know, a hippie like me but yeah, I am seeing so much of a shift in my health and the energy levels and just my body feeling so energised because energy for me was something that I didn’t have for a very long time, like I battled with, like this feeling of always being tired and dragging and brain fog and all this. And acupuncture has been really been helping me a lot.
And then another thing that has been helping me as far as dealing with kids and feeling some sort of balance, it’s just asking myself why I say no to the kids so much so what I’m actually trying to do is say yes, more within reason, right? Like, I’m not just going to say yes to let’s have, you know, popsicles and lollipops for dinner. So what I’m saying, but just, I would be very strict with the kids before. So yeah, I know, you hear me on the podcast, I’m a hippie, and all these things but some things still come to me not very easily, actually. And even though I really try hard to be a respectful, kind parent and practice, you know, crunchy parenting, I still find myself to say no to the kids just for the sake of saying no, because it’s my default mode. And ever since I started to pause and really listening to what my kids are saying, and just getting curious about, you know, like, for example, let’s say they’re asking me for water, my default not to drink, like to play with my default response would be no, we’re gonna make a mess.
Now I’m like, Okay, what did you do water for? Okay? Oh, it’s to do XYZ. Okay, so then we’re gonna do XYZ, right here in the spot, you know, so finding that the common ground where everybody’s happy, and they get their water, and I don’t have to really deal with them as because you’re paying outside, whatever. So, you know, I’m just really trying to be super mindful about hearing my kids and not saying no to them, like, not to be so quick to say no to them. And it doesn’t mean that I say yes to everything. I’m not a yes, parent, you know, I know that there are some parents who do not say no to the kids, I’m not one of them, obviously but I’m not trying to become a parent that just says yes to everything but I am trying to become a person who I want to look at my kids and just see life through their lens, you know, and I can only imagine that if somebody will say no, to me all the time, how frustrating that would be and that would cause me to rebel, right? And I think if we just take the time to really understand our kids and to see their perspective, because at the end of the day, it’s just different lens, you know, they’re seeing the world in a different lens than we are and if we can just try to see what they’re seeing and their ideas and encourage them that can be super helpful. And those are the things my mother have been really been helping me. As a homeschooling mom of two kids, running multiple businesses.
Doing these things have really been helping me feel like I can do both and manage them and not feel any sort of guilt that I’m like working too much or I’m not working enough for my kids are always gonna remember be working and spending time with them and like all this negative self talk that plays a repeat inside of my head so these are the things that I did and like I said, this isn’t that you need to run and try all of this or I don’t know, like, the point is, is that I am just trying to enlighten you for you to see that there is another way that there is hope that there is a way that we can grow successful businesses, make money from home, have an impact and raise kids that are present, they’re empathetic, they have a sense of purpose, that are happy, that are healthy, you know, and it’s doable, Mama. So if you’re at a place right now, where you’re just feeling super overwhelmed, like you can do both, like something has to give, and what has to give is your dreams, I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be that way. We just have to get curious and try things out. And what are the biggest things that I learned in 2021 was to tell myself, this is happening for me? And how can I make this work next time.
So let’s say I tried something and that something didn’t work, old me would have set in, I knew it wasn’t going to work. I’m so silly for trying to but you know, in also nice words, and I will just be a victim about it. Now, what I do is that I just tell myself, this works for me, this worked for me, there’s a lesson to be learned and what is the lesson to be learned? And what can I do better next time. So again, just change the perspective and asking yourself, how can I make this work for me? So if you are trying to find the harmony and the balance of growing a business in raising babies, just ask yourself, how can I make this work. And then you may not have an idea, come up right away but just have some white space in your life so that an idea does come to you and then you can act on it. And that idea may not work but then we stay open to the next idea because I’ll tell you what, there’s no plan that works 100% of the time for everybody, like we all have to change. We all have different seasons, especially for kids.
They’re always changing. Kids go through seasons, like super fast, you know, and we just have to stay flexible and open to the possibilities. Mama, I just want to encourage you and tell you that I see you that I hear you and if you ever want to chat with me, I am here like you can literally message me on Instagram and I’ll message you back and I’m here for you. I know what you’re going through Mama because I’m going through the same thing and I’m I have the same goals as you do. Mama, remember, you’re more than capable, you’re strong, you can do hard things and until next time, may you be wrapped in peace, love and kindness and I’ll see you next time. Bye. Hey Mama, I really really hope that this episode has blessed you in some way. And if you did would please be so kind as to leave me a review on Apple. Your review is literally the number one way that you can thank me for all the work for all the love that I put into this episodes. Also, if you loved listening to today’s episode, I can guarantee you that you’re going to love working with me. So head over to my website julianabarbati.com to see all the ways that I can help you and I can’t wait to talk to you soon. Bye.
