Hey Mama, was there a time where you just want to change the way you operate your business? Maybe you wanted to change what you’re selling? Maybe you wanted to jump into using platforms like Etsy or Amazon? Or maybe you just want to do things a little bit different because the other things are not working? Whatever it may be, it’s okay to change your mind.
We’re sometimes afraid of change because of other people’s opinion. We sometimes feel ashamed because what we’re doing is such a success but we decide to change everything because it doesn’t make us happy anymore. It’s okay to change your mind and do the things that make you happy.
Life is short so you should do the things that gives you butterflies. You should do the things that makes you excited and giddy. In this episode, I will be giving you my two cents on the topic of changing your mind when it comes to your business. It’s topic that will surely help other Mamas out there who are afraid of changing their minds.
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Hey, love, how are you, bo, I am so excited to talk to you today about change and changing your mind and evolving and all this things. So first things first Mama, I want to say this, if you have your Etsy shop or your Amazon store, your Shopify, whatever you’re selling online, somehow, and whether your business is going really well or not, and you’re sitting in the space of oh, my God, my heart is just not in this anymore. And maybe you’re feeling shame because, okay, if the business is going well, you’re feeling shame, because you should be grateful for this business, but you’re not, or if the business is not going well and maybe you are a person who has started multiple businesses in the past, and they didn’t go, how you thought they’re gonna go, and there were a quote, unquote, failure. And again, you’re sitting in the space of oh, my gosh, here I am, again, like, what’s wrong with me?
Nothing happens my way and I’m feeling shame, because I’m going to quit this business, what are people gonna think of me? So whether you’re Person A or Person B, I just want to give you permission, not that you need any for me but I want to give you permission to take a deep breath, and to love yourself and to accept yourself, and know that there’s nothing wrong with you. Okay, so let’s get that out of here. Let’s make that clear, there’s nothing wrong with you, you can totally change and evolve and change your mind. And you don’t have to stay stuck to one thing you your entire life. You know, I think, especially in this era of you have to do this and become known for this, and only do that one thing, and it has been going on for a while, right? Like, you go to college, you pick a job, or you pick your major, and that’s what you do.
And you do that for your entire life. And, and that idea, honestly, to me, it’s anxiety inducing. I know for some people, they can do that. They know what they’re going to do with their lives their entire lives, they can totally play doctor as a kid and eventually go on to become a doctor and their thing, and that’s great for them. But I think for the majority of people, myself included, I don’t want to do one thing for the rest of my life, I want to learn and evolve and experiment of things and experiment with new things and just grow, you know, so not that there’s nothing wrong with you. You’re just a human being, being you know, like you’re in this experience of life trying new things. And kudos to you for actually going after your dreams, whether, you know, you think they were a failure or not, you know, I hope that you can be graceful with yourself and be gentle with yourself and know that at least you’re trying things you know, most people stay stuck in fear, or they stay stuck in their own, like whatever in their jobs for years and years not doing anything wanting to do something and complaining about their entire lives not doing anything about it.
And here you are, like, at least trying. So whether you thought that, you know, you’re a failure, you’re thinking that you’re failure, because you tried to do some work, or you tried to did work, like what’s wrong with you that you cannot just stay stuck with this business. Love yourself because you’re actually living out your dream. And I think that a lot of people project their, their dislike with their lives on to others. So you if you are somebody who is adventurous and trying out new things, and starting new businesses and whatever, I think there’s a lot of envy that comes with that. And I think people that judge you for that, honestly, they’re just really unhappy, you know, when they’re not willing to try and I can tell you one thing, okay? Because I am this who likes to try new things and who likes to just experiment and just evolve and all the things that we have been talking about, my family does not understand me and I get how hard it is okay, like, my mom does not understand what I do. She doesn’t get it.
She wishes that I would just buy a house somewhere and live there for the rest of my life. And she wishes that I wouldn’t be a business owner as a business owner, she wishes that I had a job, even though that wouldn’t fulfil me, like that’s the plan that she has for my life, you know, and my and my mom will never fully understand me or accept me, because I’m so different than her. And I know what you’re going through because I go through this, you know, I don’t have a relationship with my family, my extended family because of that any if you’re South American I don’t know how it is for for other cultures, but in the Brazilian culture is like your extended family is to your family, you know, like you still it’s like your mom, your dad, it’s like an extension of them, you know, so your extended family is still your family and I don’t and that’s huge for me not to have a relationship with them. But that’s because they could not accept me for who I am that I’m like, you know what, I can’t live like this. I have to live my life, I have to do what’s true for me.
And I know that this is something that I live by which is to cause the least amount of harm for the next person, or they are an animal, you know, which is why I make so many choices in my life is because this is what I live by to, I want to make as much or as little harm as possible to the planet to the person next to me to animals, to plants, to everything, I that’s how I operate, you know, while being true to myself, like, it really bothers people that I am the way that I am. And by people, I mean, my family, you know, so I’ll just say is that I get you, if you want to chat with me, you can hop into my DMs or you can send me an email if you want to feel connected to somebody who’s like, you know, not even the black sheep or like the rainbow sheep of the family, like the person who’s just like, you know, living life chasing butterflies, like, I get your girl like I am you and I’m here for you. And anyway, in this episode, what I wanted to talk to you about is this idea that, okay, if you are somebody who starts a business who’s always starting something new, maybe you tried an MLM, and then another MLM, and another thing and it didn’t work out, and then you hear you’re starting on Etsy, and like, your heart’s not in it, or whatever, it’s just not working out, or you are somebody who has the opposite, like, has a lot of success on Etsy, or Amazon or whatever. And like, you’re just not again, your heart’s not in it. I want to talk to you about that, and, hopefully enlighten you.
And honestly, you can probably tell by my voice, how I feel about this, which is, life is short. And if you’re not happy with something, it’s okay for you to change your mind, which I know in the past, I have said in this podcast that you have to have longevity for things, you have to see things through. Think long term and all that. And that is true, okay. Like, I don’t want you to think that this episode is a pass for you to like, not try okay, for you to just give up right now, because there is a hurdle and you’re like, oh, my gosh, I hate this so much. I’m just gonna quit because, you know, I’m not telling you to go quit right now. Because you’re afraid to learn SEO or to learn tags or pictures, or whatever it is, it’s keeping you stuck right now. Okay, that’s not what I’m saying. I still think that in order for you to grow and evolve, you need to challenge yourself, and you need to put yourself in some sort of discomfort, you know, like, something that, that still brings out a little like, butterflies in your stomach, because you’re like, oh my gosh, I’m so scared about this. Like, I’m not suggesting don’t try things because you’re afraid of failure.
Okay, this is for the person who did try it and tried really hard. And at the end of the day, their hearts just simply not in it. Okay, so, girl, I just want to say that it’s okay for you to change your mind. It’s okay for you to go down a path and realise that the path is not for you because guess what? We’re all gonna die one day? And what is the point of doing something that you don’t like? Because you are worried about what other people are going to say? What is the point, like, this is your life, your very own life to live. And if you’re going to live by other people’s standards to know your own, you’re going to regret it, you know, so it’s okay for you to love who you are, who you are, accept who you are. And if you are somebody who starts multiple projects, and you haven’t found your thing yet, guess what, it’s not your fault, because I said this in another episode. But, you know, we have been told what to do our entire lives from the moment we were born, there was somebody telling us like, what to do, how to think, you know, like, all these things, and then we went to school.
And we were told to how to said what to wear, like, how to think whatever, all the things and then we went to college, you know, a little bit less strict, but still strict in a sense like that, we still had to do things a certain way, right? And then we went on to get jobs. And we had a boss telling us what to do. And we never had the room for creativity. We never had to room to think for ourselves and just experiment with things. So now that let’s say you have the freedom to try out new things and explore, maybe you feel guilty that you just cannot find the thing. But that’s okay, because guess what we are in this life experimenting and trying to see what sticks and what doesn’t, you know, and I think it’s okay, you know, I think if you just look at it as failure, you know, that’s the meaning that you’re attaching to it, it’s failure. But if you want to look at it, like you’re exploring new things, and you’re trying to learn new things, and you’re discovering who you are and what you like, like you’re not doing anything wrong by doing that, like how is that a failure? How is it a failure for you to go after your dreams? You know, I mean, think about this like, you cannot think this as a failure as a mistake like oh my gosh, was such a mistake that I started this business.
Okay, like, if you don’t know what the outcome is gonna be and all you have right right here in front of you, is information in front of you, then how can that be? Failure, like making a wrong choice. There are things in life that are wrong, like drunk driving, that is wrong, that is dumb like, that never ends well Oh, that right there is obviously a wrong choice that is obviously a mistake, but you starting a business and trusting yourself in that business not going how you thought was going to be or, or whatever, whatever the case may be like, that cannot be a mistake, because you are learning something new, you’re discovering, you’re chasing after something, okay? And you learn more about yourself. And let me tell you this business, being a business owner, is therapy, because you learned so much about yourself that if you if you have never been seen a therapist before, this is therapy, okay? Like you having to overcome your yourself and all your limiting beliefs and your negative self talk and you working through that and moving past that, who, oh, my gosh, like Halo therapy in a box. And all this to say is that you can change your mind.
You can try new things and love yourself and honour yourself, like accepted that is how you are there’s nothing wrong with you, and stop assigning meaning to, to these experiences, you know, like, oh, my gosh, what’s wrong with me? Why can’t they do this and look at yourself with more accepting lens, and more love, honestly, like, at the end of the day, it comes down to loving yourself more. And understanding that your word is beautiful being who’s trying things and discovering what you like and what you don’t. And, you know, as long as you’re not harming somebody else, you’re you have your heart in the right place. That’s all that matters, you know. So, Mama, I just want to say that it’s okay for you to change your mind. It’s okay for you to evolve. We’re complex beings. And not everyone can stay stuck to the same thing for the rest of our lives, you know, and that’s okay. So I just want to leave you with this, I hope that this was helpful to you that if you’re sitting in a place of, oh, my gosh, what have I done, I don’t like this, you can always pivot, which by the way, we are doing a pivot series on this podcast, where I am just highlighting some of the ways that you can pivot your business you can go different directions that you can take the skills that you have, and turn them into something new. And I hope you really enjoy the series. I had this idea. Because I want to empower you to really live your life and for you to trust your intuition for you to trust that, you know, there is nothing wrong with you that you’re on this life, like just trying to evolve and try to figure out what it is that floats your boat, because you’re trying to live a life that’s fulfilled, you know. So I hope you enjoyed the series.
And I hope that the takeaway for from this episode is that you can change your mind. Because we’re just, you know, in this human experience, experiencing life, and life is different. For every single one of us. It’s easy for me to sit here, but for anybody really to to sit here and say Oh, this is what you should do. This is the next step and edited edited out when they don’t know who you are, as a whole. Like, you really only get parts of somebody we never really get the whole thing because again, we’re so complex, you know, there’s so much to us that cannot be summarised, you know, and only you know, like, nobody knows you better than yourself, you know, so, just love yourself and there’s nothing wrong with you for wanting to change and trying out new things. Okay. Anyway, Mama, you are loved. You’re strong. You’re capable of doing hard things and until next time, may you be wrapped in peace loving kindness, and I’ll catch you in the next episode. Bye.
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